We all know that families are there to love you and respect you, but indeed it is difficult at times to love them back and respect them just as they have done to you!
- Help your parents with whatever they need. Do chores around the house when asked, and if it's a special day for a family member that day (E.g.: birthday), do their part so that they know you care and respect them. If it bothers you that you are doing all of the work, try and talk it out or maybe write a list.
- Listen to your parents and follow their rules. The rules may sound strict and unfair, but your parents have probably made those rules to help you or for a good reason. If you feel like they are unfair, don't shout at your parents as this will end badly. Ask them for an appointment to talk about the rules to help you understand them and the reason for them. If you adopt the "help me understand your point of view" stance, they will be much more likely to give you increased freedom in time and to take your ideas into consideration.
- Try not to argue with your family. Work your conflicts out with your siblings and count to ten with your parents if you know you are about to have a temper tantrum. This is the key to having respect and love flowing around the house.
- Be polite. Respect also means manners. Being at home doesn't mean you can omit the 'please' and 'thank you'. If your younger siblings don't seem to remember this, try and remind them gently, so they too will see how important being polite is. Remember your manners at all times, especially if your parents have guests round.
- Don't talk back. Respecting people doesn't just mean being nice to them. Talking back, rolling your eyes, smacking your lips, showing by your body language that you aren't listening-- all these responses are bad for all relationships, not just family. It also makes people think you are rude and don't care about your family, which is not the impression you want to make.
- If you get punished, accept it and don't make a fuss. You have done something wrong, so you have to take the consequences. Be mature and just get on with it, for example if you are grounded, don't break the rules of your grounding and it will be over and done with sooner than you think. Learn something from your punishments and don't do whatever you did again. If you truly disagree that the punishment was deserved, calmly talk it out with your family.
- If you have friends come over, make sure they behave politely. Behaving politely is a good part of being respectful, and respecting your parents means making sure your friends do, too.
- Last but not the least, think of all the things you love about this unique family of yours. Everyone has their own unique traits, respect that! Remind yourselves that manners, love and respect is the key to every healthy relationship.
Tips
- When something bothers you, talk it out. It helps to vent and work out your problems, not keep it in and not know when your anger will explode. You can also write it down in a diary or a blog when you can't talk it out with somebody.
- Write down a little list of values and good points of your family members.It could be small so that you can put it in your wallet and take with you wherever you go. When you feel like talking back, take it out and just read it a couple of times.
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